Tag: My life

Perspective,

Top twenty theological influences

Ben Meyers of Faith and Theology presents a list of his top twenty theological influences prompted by Aaron Ghiloni’s post on the same issue.

Mr. Meyers states:

Aaron is absolutely right —“ our theology may be influenced by books, but the deepest theological influences are almost always non-literary. These are the things that really construct us and constitute us as persons —“ only subsequently do we also make a few minor alterations through the influence of books.

So I’ve decided to join in with my list of —top 20+1 theological influences,— not in rank order.

  • The Holy Eucharist – most particularly in the reception of the Eucharist, but also in the adoration and contemplation of the Eucharist.
  • St. Casimir’s R.C. Church —“ God glorified. Thundering homilies in the days of the Tridentine Rite Holy Mass (up through 1974 believe it or not). Solemn liturgies, deep devotion, beautiful vestments, art, light and architecture. The church is modeled on the Hagia Sophia and is a magnificent example of Byzantine architecture. Everything in the church pulls you up to God.
  • St. Anthony —“ a special patron to whom my mother was deeply devoted. As a child, St. Anthony held the baby Jesus and found lost stuff. As an adult —“ getting to know him better, I understood that effective preaching is a grace and motivator to conversion.
  • Traditions around the holidays —“ the Polish traditions that brought family together and which were always centered on the faith. Not tradition for the sake of tradition, but tradition for the sake of learning about, glorifying, and praising God.
  • Polish hymns —“ as a young person I didn’t understand a word, but my mom told me what they meant. They moved me to great heights and to tears, just by the music and the interpretation of the singers.
  • Gorzkie Żale devotions (Bitter Lamentations) —“ the sorrows of Christ’s passion and death sung and prayed —“ all from the perspective of the Blessed Virgin. I could feel her pain and it still moves me to tears.
  • Adoration of the Holy Cross on Good Friday —“ kissing the five wounds —“ loving Jesus.
  • Sister Agnese —“ my aunt and a Felician sister. Total dedication to God and to her work. The joy of a community of faith.
  • Illness —“ being a diabetic and knowing first hand the difficulties of illness. Understanding that there is a place of joy with no more suffering or sickness.
  • Adoption —“ being adopted into my family and several others. Love by choice as a reflection of God choosing us.
  • Travel —“ never without church, never without family —“ and being thankful for the opportunity. The vastness of God’s world and our human connection by His design.
  • My father’s death (I was 4 years old) —“ understanding the value of saying you are sorry and seeking reconciliation. He disciplined me the night before he died —“ I never told him I was sorry.
  • The PNCC —“ and a richness of theology. The Word as sacrament, regeneration and a choice for Christ.
  • Negative R.C. experiences —“ triumphalism, absolutism, minimalism, legalism, church closings, abuse (a couple tried with me), extravagance, and others. Yes, I know —“ not the Church, but the sins of weak men, yet we are obliged, as partners with Christ, to cooperate in how we define ourselves.
  • Doing the things I said I would never do —“ God’s ways are not our ways, and we are not in charge.
  • Children —“ you can intellectualize why you can’t, shouldn’t, or mustn’t but none of it makes sense in light of the reality. The best experience is seeing your children grow in the womb, followed by the experience of their birth. This was also brought home to me in a meeting where a woman with very strong ‘convictions’ about over population, not bringing children into the world, etc. —“ a 1960’s type protester —“ lamented of her loss.
  • A Full Gospel Church elder —“ hearing him speak of the Spirit.
  • Death —“ my mother was the youngest in her family (10 children) and my sister and I didn’t arrive until late in our parents’ 30’s. Most of my relatives were quite a bit older. My father died when I was four and so began a procession of death. Christ is our hope and our promise.
  • My grandmother (Mary who we called Busha) who loved us so much. She and my aunt moved in with us after my dad died. She gardened (everything she touched grew), cooked, pickled, shoveled, swept, played with us kids, never spoke a word of English, and was the matriarch and center around which family gathered. She stood strong until a stroke at the age of 91. Every evening she would sit in the large chair in her room and pray the rosary or the chaplet of St. Terese allowing us to sit at her feet to watch, learn and understand.
  • My grandfather (Louis) who loved us so much. We would walk —“ to get fried chicken or go to Golembiewski’s for toys. He would take us on the bus to the zoo or the museum. We would fall asleep on his side on car rides to his house. He was a man of dignity, loyalty, honor, and great love.
  • Growing up in a house full of women – understanding the difficulties they faced in healthcare, the job market, in dealing with men who thought that they had all the answers. A lesson in empathy at a minimum.
Everything Else,

Oh, the things you’ve done….

Deacon Raphael has tagged me… Here is my list (I think I am about as exciting as a stone).

Things I’ve done (for good or bad) are shown in bold and italics:

01. Bought everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swam with wild dolphins
03. Climbed a mountain
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid
06. Held a tarantula
07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone
08. Said —I love you’ and meant it!
09. Hugged a tree
10. Bungee jumped

11. Visited Paris
12. Watched a lightning storm at sea
13. Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise
14. Seen the Northern Lights
15. Gone to a huge sports game
16. Walked the stairs to the top of the leaning Tower of Pisa
17. Grown and eaten your own vegetables
18. Touched an iceberg
19. Slept under the stars

20. Changed a baby’s diaper
21. Taken a trip in a hot air balloon
22. Watched a meteor shower
23. Drunk champagne
24. Given more than you can afford to charity
25. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope
26. Had an uncontrollable giggling fit at the worst possible moment
27. Had a food fight
28. Bet on a winning horse
29. Asked out a stranger

30. Had a snowball fight
31. Screamed as loudly as you possibly can
32. Held a lamb
33. Seen a total eclipse
34. Ridden a roller coaster
35. Scored a winning goal
36. Danced like a fool and not cared who was looking
37. Adopted an accent for an entire day
38. Actually felt happy about your life, even for just a moment
39. Visited all 5 continents

40. Taken care of someone who was drunk
41. Danced with a stranger in a foreign country
42. Watched wild whales
43. Stolen a sign
44. Backpacked
45. Taken a road-trip
46. Gone rock climbing (Krosno, Poland)
47. Tried to lose weight seriously.
48. Midnight walk on the beach
49. Gone sky diving

50. Taken a train through Europe
51. Been heartbroken longer than you were actually in love
52. In a restaurant, sat at a stranger’s table, and had a meal with them
53. Milked a cow
54. Alphabetized your CDs
55. Sung karaoke
56. Lounged around in bed all day
57. Gone scuba diving
58. Kissed in the rain
59. Gone to a drive-in theater

60. Started a business
61. Taken a martial arts class
62. Been in a movie
63. Crashed a party
64. Gone without food for 5 days
65. Gotten a tattoo
66. Got flowers for no reason
67. Performed on stage
68. Been to Las Vegas
69. Recorded music

70. Eaten shark
71. Buried one/both of your parents
72. Been on a cruise ship
73. Spoken more than one language fluently
74. Picked up and moved to another city to just start over
75. Walked a famous bridge
76. Had plastic surgery
77. Survived an accident that you shouldn’t have survived
78. Wrote articles for a large publication
79. Piloted an airplane

80. Petted a stingray
81. Broken someone’s heart
82. Broken a bone
83. Eaten sushi
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Parasailed
86. Skipped all your school reunions
87. Shaved your head
88. Caused a car accident
89. Pretended to be —sick—

90. Swam in the Pacific Ocean
91. Saved someone’s life
92. Fainted
93. Been in the room while someone is giving birth
94. Hitchhiked
95. Adopted a child
96. Been caught daydreaming
97. Been to the Painted Desert
98. Called off a wedding engagement
99. Donated your blood

100. Become a follower of Jesus Christ

Anyone who would like to participate (Adam?) is hereby tagged.

Current Events, Perspective, Political,

Voting for streets paved in blood

I have voted in every election, even the most mundane ones such as school board and library board elections, ever since I gained the right to vote.

Regardless of the hopelessness, regardless of the fact that my one vote will not achieve any kind of change, or make any difference in the predefined outcome, I will not refrain from voting.

This year’s vote is particularly important.

Voting is my statement —“ saying I believe in the United States that propagates this right. You remember —“ the nation of ideals —“ democracy, freedom, rugged individualism, family, true conservatism. When I vote I will be saying that I remember and believe in the country that didn’t torture its prisoners, that didn’t strike first, that didn’t spy on its citizens, and that didn’t call political opponents traitors.

This year is tough. I get to chose between Democrats who will pave the streets in the blood of aborted and murdered children (abortion and ESCR) and Republicans who will pave the streets in the blood of our serviceman and women, of prisoners (death penalty), and of so many innocents around the world.

The alternate lines offer a means of protest. Whether Conservative, Libertarian, Reform, or Green, a vote on those lines will say, at least in part, I do not agree.

In any event, I encourage you to get out and vote. Make your vote a moment of prayer, asking for God’s mercy on us just before you pull the level, punch the card, write the name, or press the button. Make your one small voice heard. We may never take back our state or country, but at least we can maintain our personal dignity (as long as they let us).

Everything Else, ,

Of holy memory

Please remember during the month of November:

Andrzej and Emilia, Józef and Rozalia, Louis A. and Bernice, Walenty and Maria, Jan and Marianna, Marcin and Marianna, Louis T. and Rita, Sister Mary Agnese, Agnes and Joseph, Angeline, John, Walenty, Walerka, Francis and Mary, Ludwis, Anthony and Laura, Mary Grace, Joseph, and Chester

Wieczny odpoczynek racz im dać Panie, a światłość wiekuista niechaj im świeci. Amen.

Niech odpoczywają w pokoju. Amen.

Witaj, Królowo Nieba (Hail, Thou Queen of the Heavens)

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Current Events, Media,

Miscellaneous

Truth is often stunning

From Huw Raphael: Sacrifice Your Babies… To save Former Canadian actors…

M.J. Fox shills to kill more babies so he can live. How nice.

You knew these shoes would drop

From the Sarasota Herald Tribune: Priest Foley accused is named again

Last week, the Rev. Anthony Mercieca said the only boy he ever had an inappropriate relationship with was Mark Foley, when the former congressman was an altar boy in Lake Worth in the mid-1960s.

On Wednesday, a second man came forward and accused the 72-year-old retired Catholic priest of molesting him while he was an altar boy at St. James Parish in Miami in the late 1970s…

…and

From USA Today: 2nd Florida priest charged with mishandling church money

DELRAY BEACH, Fla. (AP) —” The second of two Florida priests charged with spending church money on gambling trips, rare coins and a girlfriend has surrendered to authorities, his attorney said Monday.

The Rev. Francis B. Guinan, 63, returned to the United States on Sunday from a trip to Australia and was taken into custody in Miami, said his attorney, David Roth. He was to be released late Monday on $50,000 bond, Roth said.

Last month, authorities issued arrest warrants for the Rev. John A. Skehan, longtime pastor at St. Vincent Ferrer Catholic Church, and Guinan, his successor. Police say the two misused $400,000 in church funds. However, an audit conducted by the Diocese of Palm Beach alleges the pair misappropriated $8.7 million…

For whom shall I root?

I always seemed to have a Mets hat growing up. Never the Yankees —“ just the Mets. I often wondered why —“ but never really found out why.

During the NL Finals I wondered whether I should root for the Mets or the Cards.

You see, St. Louis is the team of the all time great Stan —The Man— Musial. St. Louis was home to the teams (both the Browns and the Cards) that appear to have signed the greatest number of Polish and Polish-American ballplayers (see my baseball page).

Thus the dilemma, root for the team someone in my family liked or the team of Stan the Man and my fellow travelers?

I decided to go with my ethnic leanings. The same applies to the Series – Go Cards!! (sorry Hamtramck)

In the same vein, who to cheer for in Dancing with the Stars? I’ve always liked Joey Lawrence’s partner Edyta Sliwinska. A beautiful, classic Polish woman, she seems to have gotten stuck with rather poor partners in past shows. Now she has a chance. I really like Mario Lopez and Emmitt Smith as well. They are all deserving of a win. The next few weeks will be tough.

All I have to say is thank goodness Sara Evans is gone. She danced like a mummy driving a Mack truck. She should have never lasted longer than Willa Ford.

Ecumenical Rosary

Our pastor and I were invited to participate in a recitation of a Rosary for Peace last night. The Rosary was held at St. Francis de Sales R.C. Church in Loudonville, NY.

It was a great service. The Rosary was recited in various languages. We were asked to do a decade in Polish. The first half of each prayer was said in the participant’s native language with the second part said in English. They covered Polish, German, Italian, various languages and dialects from the Philippines, and Korean. The Holy Eucharist was exposed and they held benediction at the end.

I found that my ability to sing in Latin has not been diminished.

The Church is extremely modern but they’ve added some nice touches here and there. The statuary was well done, there were various icons throughout the building, and they recently installed stained glass windows.

A great evening —“ and a great way to connect with our R.C. friends at St. Francis.

Current Events, Perspective,

Your breasts are like twin fawns

Your breasts are like twin fawns,
the young of a gazelle
that browse among the lilies.

I offer this verse from the Song of Songs (Song of Songs 4:5) in honor of all women, and in recognition of October being Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

Many bloggers have turned their sites a lovely shade of pink in blogdom’s Go Pink for October effort.

Part of the Go Pink effort is the sharing of personal stories. Here’s mine:

I had a cousin, Mary Grace, who was affected by breast cancer. She ended up having a double mastectomy followed by high-dose chemo and radiation therapy.

I remember very clearly how our whole family came together in prayer before, during, and after her treatments. It was an intense and exceptional lesson in faith. I remember the sense of confidence I had in our common prayer. I don’t remember questioning whether the prayer, along with the medical treatment, would work, I just had no doubt.

The treatment worked and Mary Grace was able to carry on for several years. Eventually, the cancer did return, and took her life, the life of an outstanding person, a mom, wife, and educator.

Mary Grace was in the lead among technology educators in this country, long before technology was part of school curricula. Something that I as a blogger and amateur tech guy appreciate and admire.

The Kentucky Association of Technology Coordinators named a Student Technology Leadership Program scholarship in her honor. They had this to say in their minutes (Google archive):

Dr. Mary Grace Jaeger was the director of the Computer Support Unit for Jefferson County Public Schools and in the beginning stages of KERA, she was the Associate Commissioner of Education Technology. Her tireless efforts to improve the integration of technology in instruction benefited students in her county and in all districts across our great Commonwealth. Dr. Jaeger was a wonderful president of KATC and an enthusiastic supporter of STLP. KATC wishes to honor two STLP high achievers who are also effective leaders in their club and community. It is our desire to honor them with a scholarship appropriately named after one who epitomized those same outstanding qualities.

In a special way I honor my cousin Mary Grace who would have turned 50 this year. I also honor all the women of my family.

If you took a look at the family I grew up in, you would see that the majority of family members around me were women, strong, independent, and faithful women.

I personally experienced the parochial attitudes doctors exhibited toward them and the lower level of medical care that these women received. Many would be alive today if not for the poor state of women’s health care.

My mom, my aunt, all of them under treated. All met with the attitude of ‘Oh, honey, you’re just complaining because you’re a woman.’ All with treatable conditions left undetected while doctors raked in revenue. The very same conditions in a man would have been met by extraordinary efforts on the part of the medical community.

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So this October, Go Pink, make a donation to the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation and help ensure that our sisters and daughters receive the care they deserve.

Everything Else

Converting the family

The Young Fogey has two links related to computer issues. Besides the outward reference to a well known computer company in the first, Those mean-spirited Apple ads, what is implied in the second, What to do when your computer bogs down, does a much better job of conveying that company’s sales mantra —“ It just works.

I converted the family a few weeks ago. The kids and I are enjoying —“ and I do mean enjoying —“ a Mac mini. My wife is outfitted with a 20— iMac which allows her to multitask, enjoy, and manage the rest of us without constant crashing and burning.

Set-up was a breeze, and the computers did indeed work right out-of-the-box.

I was spending so much time in computer maintenance that it was affecting other things, and the constant problems frustrated my wife and kids. Now I have more quality blogging time 😉

My wife dabbled in Macs many years ago. I had one experience, in seminary, in the language lab, with an Apple IIe —“ and it worked.

Anyway, I’m still on a PC, now with dual flat screen monitors, and a newly outfitted nVIDIA GeForce 7300 GS video card. My Dell with a 3GHz processor, the new video card, and 512 of RAM will serve for a while I think (excepting the fan which sounds like a Russian tractor). I’m still hoping to see a MacBook Pro under the Christmas tree. Anyone want to be a Christmas angel? If you’re looking to convert do so – on faith.

Oh, and if you’re interested, take a look at my first work computer – the Osborne I. It was a great computer and got me hooked on spreadsheets. Mmmm data analysis…

Everything Else

Home Depot – making moves

Today’s Associated Press carries a story about a re-do going on at Home Depot. A few excerpts from Home Depot strategy is to push customer service again follow.

CEO Bob Nardelli’s challenge is to make the stores more appealing to customers

ATLANTA – A customer service push three years ago by The Home Depot Inc. was hailed as a much-needed change at the home improvement chain. Now, with the economy slowing, the company is again trying with an extra $350 million in changes at its stores.
The company hopes not only to bring in more customers, but to also soothe investors who have driven Home Depot stock down more than 14 percent since the beginning of the year.

Win or lose, Chief Executive Officer Bob Nardelli says he is sticking with his strategy.

“What chairmen and CEOs have to do is prioritize,” Nardelli said in a recent interview in the Atlanta bureau of the Associated Press. “Those that don’t run the risk of trying to satisfy everyone and accomplishing nothing.”

In 2003, as Atlanta-based Home Depot faced a growing challenge from rival Lowe’s, the company said it would spend $400 million that year alone to modernize many of its stores, retrain employees and install computers to teach workers about the products they sell.

Davidowitz said Nardelli’s challenge is much the same as it was three years ago – to make Home Depot more appealing to customers by improving service and the feel of its stores. He suggested Nardelli take a cue from other big-box retailers.

“Go to Costco and look at those wonderful people giving out those free samples of food,” Davidowitz said. “Go to Target and look at the feeling you get when you go into the store. That’s what he’s got to go to school on.”

Nardelli said Home Depot doesn’t have its head in the sand.

The changes are part of a theme Home Depot has stressed in the past – improving the customer experience – but there is a greater urgency now, analysts say. Same-store sales, a measure that compares sales at stores open at least a year, fell 0.2 percent in the second quarter.

Based on my most recent negative experience with Home Depot this would appear to be the right move. We’ll see…

Homilies

Never thought I’d hear this…

I gave the homily at Holy Mass yesterday morning. I always prepare a homily, though I rarely deliver one. As our Prime Bishop has told us – always be prepared.

After Mass one of our most faithful and devout parishioners came up to me and told me how much he appreciated the homily. He told me: “You sounded just like Fulton Sheen.” I naturally thanked him – and I think I had a kind of shocked look on my face – because he followed up by saying he meant it.

I don’t think I’ve ever heard an episode of Life is Worth Living all the way through. Typically I’ve caught re-runs on EWTN late at night. I start watching and then I fall asleep in front of the television. Who knows – maybe something seeped in.

My mom always appreciated Bishop Sheen’s words. Like many Catholics of her generation, she took pride in Catholics that did well in the public arena (John F. Kennedy) or defended and taught the faith (Bishop Sheen).

I thank our parishioner for his kind words and for helping me feel close to my mom.

Perspective

Questioning faith

Huw Raphael has posted on the question (and questioning) of faith in True Confessions.

There’s not a lot to say about these types of struggles. Everyone faces them in their own way, and with God’s grace (which you cannot see as being there at the time) you get through it. The best we can do is to pray for the person facing questions of faith. Huw, you have my prayers.

From my own struggles, and these are personal to me and may have no relevance to anyone else, I can offer the following:

The key question for me was whether I was able to deny Jesus. Going through my time of spiritual darkness (which lasted about 10 years) I was able to deny and reject a lot of things. However I was never able to deny or reject Jesus. I was tempted, and I thought about it, but I could never make that statement. I could not tell Him to go away.

Faith is a gift from God. Grace is offered to all and some take God up on the offer, some do not. Some get it right away, some never see it (or at least they won’t admit to it). Why one has faith, when another does not, is a mystery. It comes down to whether we can accept our place in relation to the One who is greater than us and the fulfillment of us.

Dark times are times of maturation. Huw comments on this. Do we replace faith in fantasies (Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter Bunny) with faith in a seemingly more adult fantasy? Do we do this while never really maturing? Is faith simply an immature place to be? The dark times are meant to take us from childish (not childlike – which is good), to adolescent, to adult faith. They are a stop in the journey where we are challenged to grow —“ and growth hurts sometimes.

Scrupulosity is a pitfall we all face. I personally think that God is with us on our journey. He is not distant or removed from it. He knows us better than we know ourselves. If we become overly scrupulous in our actions, learning, practices – about needing to definitively know something – we miss the point of the journey. God put us on the journey in the first place. The point is to be embraced by a love that is at once personal and communal. If you must know faith in an absolute sense you will never get it. Faith is a knowing acceptance.

Some ‘adults’ never get beyond childish faith (I believe in God because mommy would be angry if I didn’t and I don’t want God or mommy to punish me) or adolescent faith (I believe because I want to be accepted in the group/community). That is why we need good and holy priests and deacons —“ to reach these people and bring them along. I fully believe that God has higher expectations of some of us. We have been given talents we must use for His glory, and for the building up of the Kingdom. God pushes us into the dark to test us and to allow us to come out on the other side at the next stage of maturity with our talents at the ready. Even when He puts us out, He never lets us go. He will continuously call us back. God doesn’t throw us to the wolves naked and alone. He’s with us the whole time.

For me, faith is the abiding presence of God in my life, a presence I cannot get rid of. Faith pushes me in ways I do not wish to go, and makes me wait for what I desire, all the while drawing me ever closer to my desire, to my love.